It is the worst nightmare that parents can live! And you never imagine that it will happen to you, until it happens to you! This is what Kayleigh Leonard, Arlo's mother, must have thought, a two year old boy, who went to sleep and did not wake up. Kayleigh put her son to bed healthy and happy, and the next morning he was found dead in bed. Now, broken by grief, she fights for more research on sudden death, the cause of the child's death. This is his heartbreaking story.
'No pain will come close to the pain of losing you. You are my absolute world and I love you more than life, baby 'expressed this mother broken by misfortune and added:' I do not know how I will continue without my little one. No parent should put the baby to bed and not wake up. '
And what reason is he, because that is the great fear I had when my first daughter was born. There were nights when I hardly slept, and not because I was not sleepy or because she woke me up to drink from my mother's nipple, but because fear did not allow me to close my eyes. What if something happened? He had to be there to help her!
Kayleigh can't stop thinking about her angel, as Arlo likes to call it, and so she dedicates a new thought to him every day: 'You have broken my heart. You have touched the hearts of so many people ... Everyone you met loved you, special boy. I will think of you every minute of every day and there will always be a big part of me missing. I sit and watch videos and look at your photos all day. The love I have for you will carry me and you will never be forgotten. You have given me the best two and a half years of my life and I will always be grateful to you that you have shown me what love is. The most amazing happy adorable child in the world. '
This mother and her husband do not want other couples to go through the same thing as me and that is why they have launched a crowdfunding campaign to raise funds for the investigation of sudden death in the SUCD foundation and to support the grieving center of their city. 'Without them, we don't know how we could have gotten through this moment. Arlo was a happy and loving boy, he was healthy and did not have any diseases. It has been very hard ', they conclude.
Everything seems to indicate that Arlo's death was due to a sudden death of the little one. These cases have been investigated and are still being investigated a lot. Scientists do not know if death occurs during sleep or in the transition period between sleep and wakefulness, which alternate at night. What you do know is that this type of death has a higher incidence between 2 and 4 months of age of the child (after six months, the risk is reduced), and it is more common among children. Therefore, the first recommendation made by experts is never to put the baby to sleep on his stomach (prone) because this greatly increases the risk.
Another circumstance that can cause a sudden death is sharing a double bed with the baby. The risk, according to a new study published in the BMJ Open journal (an online journal dedicated to publishing medical and therapeutic research), is the same as in families where parents smoke, use drugs, or drink alcohol (factors that have already been previously associated with cases of sudden infant death syndrome). According to the researchers, Nine out of 10 cases of sudden death syndrome would not have occurred if the children weren't in bed with their parents.
Warnings about problems with sharing a bed with children vary by country, but there is a general acceptance that sleeping with the baby can be a risk in beds for mothers who smoke or drink alcohol. There is still no consensus on whether the problem remains in the bed of parents who do not have these risk factors.
Other studies claim that smoking continues to be one of the major contributors to sudden death. Two-week-old infants who shared a bed with smoking parents had a 65 times higher risk of SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) compared to children with non-smoking parents. The use of illicit drugs by the mother was associated with an 11-fold increase in risk in children who share a bed with them.
Losing a child is something that should not happen because it is unnatural, but unfortunately there are times when these episodes do occur. If you have been affected by any of the details mentioned in this story or know someone who is going through a similar situation, you have to know that there are professionals near you who can help you out.
Most people cry when they lose something or someone important to them. How grief affects you depends on many things, including the type of loss you've suffered, your education, your beliefs or religion, your age, your relationships, your physical and mental health ...
Grief is a totally normal process, but there are ways to get help if needed. For example, going to your family doctor to be a first starting point. He will advise you on support services in your area or may prescribe some medication if he deems it necessary. Too you can contact organizations or groups of fathers or mothers who have lived or are living the same as you. Talking about it and empathizing with people in the same circumstances will help you deal with that loss and pain.
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