Adolescence is a stage characterized by emotional, physical, social, psychological and sexual changes in which the child stops being an adolescent and prepares for adult life. This is a time of transition and turbulence, more or less intense, which began at puberty around 9-10 years and will end around 18. Faced with this new situation, and focusing on the emotional changes in adolescence, what is the role of parents? How can you help your teens?
During this time our children must adapt to the transformation of their body, accept their new image, learn to live more autonomously and independently, understand a new functioning of their social relationships and cope with a roller coaster of emotions in which their feelings are intense and fluctuating, so much so that sometimes not even they are able to understand what is happening to them.
To help our children to live this stage with greater security and less stress, we must be prepared. And there is no better preparation than having information. Parents who are knowledgeable about how teens look, think, feel, and act will make parents less fearful, distressed, or angry about the ways in which their adolescent son or daughter manifests.
So we are going to see some of the main emotional changes of this stage and how we can help our children to live them serenely. Because even if it seems that they no longer need us, we are still their guides but above all their parachutes. Letting them fly alone and make mistakes, decide for themselves and have the security of finding us as support so they can get up again, is one of our parental goals at this stage.
Of course, as parents we must continue to stand firm in our decisions, setting new rules and limits appropriate to their age and age. maintain a good family climate that favors communication.
And what are the main emotional changes that our children go through during adolescence? These are the three most notable.
1. Increased insecurity and self-esteem crisis
The physical changes that are taking place in your body usually generate an increase in self-confidence, which in some way affects your self-esteem, now fueled by the opinions of your peers.
At this stage, adolescents give a lot of importance to your image, so any criticism of their physical appearance can be a cause for great concern. The appearance of the typical acne or a haircut that they do not feel well with can be the cause of a temporary isolation. It is not strange to observe how many boys and girls of these ages do not want to leave home for any of these reasons.
Due to these reasons we can see that some complexes appear and at this point we must be very vigilant, especially to prevent any eating disorder or other emotional problem (anxiety and depression), but also to continue promoting their self-esteem and self-concept.
2. Mood swings or emotional lability
If there is one thing that characterizes adolescence, it is the sudden mood swings of boys and girls of this age. We adults watch in amazement how they go from joy to deepest sadness in a few hours. They are intense in their reactions and very extreme, in black or white, with me or against me.
And faced with these emotional responses, many parents have serious difficulties in maintaining a good family relationship with them. The key is knowing how to stay calm, be patient and understand that this moment is not easy for them either. Empathy and self-control, together with a family climate that favors communication, will make it easier for all of us to cope with this emotional instability.
3. Need for privacy
One of the main changes we notice in our children is the increase in time they need to spend alone.
Remember that the adolescent needs to find himself and that is why he tends to move away from us and focus on his peer group. He locks himself in his room and he likes to enjoy his solitude listening to music, reading, surfing the net or chatting on social networks.
Respect their privacy, do not spy or snoop among their things. Trust him or her and create spaces to talk. This is the moment you discover your sexuality and want to experience. It is part of a natural and normal impulse for which it is better that you have spoken during previous stages, preparing the way for it before it looks for information in places where it will find it biased, erroneous or inaccurate.
As in any other stage of our children's development, patience and understanding are essential to generate the climate of communication and trust that our children need so that they can explain to us what is happening to them, what worries them and how we can help them in case they need our help. help.
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