The social acceptance of physical punishment is a fact. Hitting boys and girls is a socially accepted practice at all social levels. This social acceptance is also reflected in language. All languages have words like 'spank', or phrases like 'a cake in time' or 'a good spanking'. Almost half of adults beat children.
Women beat their children more than fathers, probably because they spend more time with them. The youngest, aged between 18 and 30 years, reject physical punishment more than the older ones.
Physical punishment violates three of the four pillars of the legislation of the Convention on the Rights of the Child, 1989: the best interests of the child, their right to survival and development, and the right to have their point of view respected.
Article 19 of the Convention calls on States to take measures "to protect children from any form of physical and mental violence." The committee, which monitors compliance with the Convention around the world, made a recommendation in 1995 to "prohibit physical punishment of children in the family."
In Spain, the Penal Code explicitly sanctions all types of violence against children. Physical punishment is considered not legal. However, the Civil Code is not clear enough in this regard.
There is still much to do to make families aware that educating is not punishing, and to change their attitude.
- If a child lives with hostility, he learns to fight.
- If a child lives with ridicule, he learns to be shy.
- If a child lives ashamed, he learns to feel guilty.
- If a child lives in criticism, he learns to condemn.
- If a child lives in tolerance, he learns to be patient.
- If a child lives stimulated, he learns to be confident.
- If a child lives with equity, he learns to be fair.
- If a child lives in security, he learns to have faith.
- If a child lives with approval, he learns to love himself.
- If a child lives with acceptance and friendship, he learns to find love in the world!
When children do something that causes disappointment, anger or anger in their parents, it is best in these cases to count to 100 before reacting. After a few minutes, when the bad drink has passed, there you have to apply a punishment. For the child to assimilate and understand well what he did wrong, the best is positive punishment. No hitting them, please, or giving them an absurd or humiliating punishment. We give you some ideas:
- A punishment that makes you think. For example, stay without playing this day in the park with your friends.
- A punishment that makes him correct what he has done. For example, if he has hurt his brother, ask him to apologize to the brother and also to do something good to him.
- A punishment that makes you think. For example, chat with the child about what he did and what punishment he thinks he deserves.
- A punishment that makes him arch with the consequences. If your child does not come to dinner at the table, nothing happens. Leave him hungry. You will already learn with the consequences of your act.
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