What does it depend on whether a child achieves better or worse academic results? Some recent studies have talked about the type of diet that is established in the family home, others have mentioned the time that children dedicate to free play and / or extracurricular activities; There are also those reports that point to the empathy of the teacher and, recently, the University of Oviedo (Spain) and the Ministry of Education of Asturias speak of kids who do homework with their parents get worse grades. What do you think about this?
When I was little I liked the first day of school because it used to release books. I loved that new smell from the booklets! That's why, perhaps, whenever I came home from a school day I would immediately start doing my homework in my room. I remember that my mother gave me total freedom!
Many years have passed since then and now, with my 7-year-old daughter, I relive those moments of doing operations or studying associative and commutative properties. And the thing is that every day I sit down with her to give her a hand with her homework, although there are times that she herself asks me to leave the room and, just in case of having any questions, she lets me know.
And that must be the technique that I must follow if I want their school performance to be optimal, and that is according to a recently published study kids who do homework with their parents get worse grades. Why is this?
Helping them to do their homework can affect their autonomy, since we make children dependent on their parents and us, too protective beings. It is also not very advisable for children that, as soon as we set foot outside of school or when we get home, we older people ask the trick question of 'Do you have homework for today?' or that we supervise if the task is well or badly done.
Hence, it is better to leave them 'freedom' and take advantage of the moments back home from school or dinner time to have a conversation around studies, but without asking them directly about homework or homework. 'For a child to promptly ask for help to do homework is not bad. What you have to try is that children are as responsible as possible. They are the only school task that is done without teacher supervision and they serve to create responsibility, 'explains Rubén Fernández-Alonso, one of the study's authors.
Another conclusion that can be drawn from this study is that mothers are 'more controlling' or are more interested in our children's school subjects than fathers. According to some data, more than 80% of mothers are interested in how they have done in class, compared to 66% of parents with the same attitude. We worry more, we ask them more, we get more involved or, at least that is how our little ones perceive it. Perhaps this statement comes because, in many cases, we are the ones who take or go to pick up the children to school and we are the ones who are at home with them in the afternoons.
Finally, in this research, there is also talk of the influence of family styles on the notes of our offspring. Thus, the most communicative parents - those who talk about their children's relationships with their peers, about study habits or about motivation, but in no case about schoolwork - have children who obtain better scores compared to those who have parents more controllers and who are directly involved in the performance of duties.
It is clear that parents must get involved in the education of our children, but we must do it in such a way that it does not affect either their school performance or the development of their personality. Are there tricks to carry it out? We can say that, more than tricks, there are guidelines that can help us achieve that goal:
- Talk to the teachers
It is important that parents maintain a good and communicative relationship with our children's teachers in order to warn or be able to detect any problem or setback throughout the school year.
- Do not ask for homework on WhatsApp
And the idea of not doing their homework with them is, of course, joined by not asking another mother for them on WhatsApp because we would again interfere in their autonomy and development process.
- Give them time to play
To achieve good school performance, we must reduce as much as possible the stress that children may have when it comes to doing their homework. That is why it is advisable and almost mandatory to give them some free time between leaving school and coming home to do their homework.
- Do not saturate them with extracurricular activities
And, very much in line with the previous point, there is the fact that many times parents try to make our children learn different things we saturate them with different extracurricular activities without realizing that the only and most important extracurricular to which they must go is the Park.
- Trust in them
If you show them confidence and if you motivate them, they will do their homework themselves. It's all about trusting them! They will be grateful to you!
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